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Life is a Nine-dot Problem
Life is a Nine-dot Problem
I have immensely enjoyed reading Full Catastrophe Living by Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn (b. 1944), a very readable and practical book on mindfulness, published in 1990. I have read the 25th anniversary issue, published in 2013. The more than 600-page book presents the details of an 8-week course known as Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction (MBSR) offered through the Stress Reduction Clinic at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center in Worcester, Massachusetts that Kabat-Zinn founded in 1979. It dives deep into explaining the fundamentals of mindfulness in an impeccable scientific manner.
“Catastrophe” in the title of the book does not have the usual meaning of disaster but conveys what Kabat-Zinn calls “the poignant enormity of our life experience.” He explains that he chose this title from the Academy Award-winning 1964 film Hollywood film Zorba the Greek. There is a young Greek young man in the film who seeks guidance from a mysterious elderly man Alexis Zorba, played by Anthony Quinn (1915 –2001). In one scene in the film, the young man asks Zorba if he is married. Zorba says, as if growling, “Am I not a man? And is not a man stupid? I’m a man, so I’m married. Wife, children, house – everything. The full Catastrophe.”
Kabat-Zinn says that every life is a catastrophe – struggle, hardships, uncertainties, failures, betrayals, and wrongs done – and every person on the planet has his or her own unique version. Making the acceptance of this fact the cornerstone of one’s life, according to the book, one must assume full responsibility for whatever has happened and respond rather than run away with excuses and pretend that all is well by living in a bogus manner, a sham of a life. Historically, mindfulness is related to Buddhism, but Kabat-Zinn presents it as “cognitive therapy” providing a powerful theoretical rationale and citing clinical validation over decades of its application.
In Chapter 12 of the book, titled Glimpses of Wholeness, Delusion of Separateness, Kabat-Zinn brings in the famous problem of nine dots. The task is to connect all nine dots by four straight lines without lifting the pencil off the paper. Most people are stuck after drawing three lines. The solution lies in extending the lines beyond the 3×3 matrix. Kabat-Zinn writes, “The problem of the nine dots suggests that we may need to take a broader view of certain problems if we hope to solve them. . . the problem of nine dots teaches us that we may have to expand beyond our habitual, highly conditioned ways of seeing, thinking, and acting in order to solve, resolve, or even dissolve certain kind of problems.”
What a beautiful message from a stunningly simple example! We are all prisoners of our nine dots. Our minds are hardened due to fossil ideas, dogmas, and obsolete definitions, and scales and measures that are no more valid. Who among us is not a puppet of our habits, our hunger, and drives – cravings, likes and dislikes, egocentricities, and so on? Kabat-Zinn writes, “Rather than penetrating through problems to the point where solutions are reached, when we get stuck there is a tendency to make more problems, and to make them worse, also to give up trying to solve them.”
I will now present these nine dots as a universal pattern of the problems in life. The three rows of this 3×3 matrix are – personal, family, and workplace. The three columns under “personal” are health, inner peace, and satisfaction. The three columns under “family” are harmony, happiness, and prosperity. The three columns under “workplace” are name (power), fame (status), and wealth. All of us are stuck in this maze – the moment we connect a few dots, unconnectable dots stare at us.
There are very powerful people with horrible family lives. Very famous people are drowned in addictions and die young, even by suicide. Wealth brings its own collateral damages – from scheming by partners and colleagues to regulatory probes topping the normal business risks, it is common to see wealthy people living tormented lives. So, what the solution to this problem teaches – get out of this prison of “I,” “me,” and “mine” and take a broader view of your life.
We were born in a certain family, grew up in certain circumstances, and got into certain livelihoods; most of us are married, but even those few who remained single are facing Zorba’s full Catastrophe. What is elusive is good health (which my mentor Dr. APJ Kalam would define as sound sleep and regular bowel movement), peace of mind, and your children and mentees flourishing in their lives and careers. You have everything but because these are missing, despair clouds your mind, and your heart slips into melancholy.
Albert Einstein (1879 –1955), whom I consider the greatest visionary of modern times who could see beyond the solar system, beyond gravity, and even beyond the straightness of light rays before anyone. There are three authentic sources of what Einstein said: The World as I see It (1934), Out of My Later Years (covering the years 1934-1950), and Mein Weltbild (1953). Ideas and Opinions, based on Mein Weltbild and other sources, is the most popular book in English. I share two of Einstein’s thoughts here, taken from the book (Three Rivers Press):
The true value of a human being is determined primarily by the measure and the sense in which he has attained liberation from the self. (p. 12)
To see with one’s own eyes, to feel and judge without succumbing to the suggestive power of the fashion of the day, to be able to express what one has seen and felt in a trim sentence or even in a cunningly wrought word—is that not glorious? (p. 17)
So, connect with your real self, feel your emotions, and use your rational mind. Kabat-Zinn writes, “Our real job, with a capital J, is to find our own way.” And your way goes out of the nine dots. You are not the hero in the drama – not even in your family – forget about the community, company, or the world. You are one among the billions – appearing for a brief period of some decades, that too as a work in progress – now wise, now foolish, now brave, and now craven. Like a pendulum, our mind is driving us between likes and dislikes, moving shadows under the sun of a pole that even does not exist.
Look at the people around you, observe them, feel their problems, empathize with their feelings, resonate with their aspirations, and you will find yourself connecting all the dots without even trying. Still doubtful? Observe your breath. Are you exhaling something different than the others around you? Do you drink different water? Eat different food? Have a body with different anatomy and physiology? Know yourself as a dot and ride upon the line.
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