I had a respectful familiarity with the Sri Ramakrishna Mission. Besides reading the excellent books that they have been publishing, I had the fortune of visiting the Dakshineshwar Kali Mandir in Kolkata twice where Sri Ramakrishna met Narendra…
The Truth About One-third of Your Life
The Truth About One-third of Your Life
Normally, the 24 hours of a day are divided into 16 hours of waking time and eight hours of sleep, plus/ minus an hour or two. That means, one-third of one’s life is spent in sleep. Sleep is divided into two types – deep sleep and dream sleep. There are about five cycles of approximately 90 minutes each, with spells of deep sleep and dream sleep (technically called Rapid Eye Movement or REM sleep). At the beginning of sleep, the cycle is mostly deep sleep and towards the early hours in the morning, the cycle is mostly Dream sleep. Overall, about 20% of one’s sleep is REM sleep. So, when you sleep late after watching a film, you lose mostly deep sleep, and when you wake up early to catch a flight, you lose mostly REM sleep.
Matthew Walker, a professor of psychiatry at the Harvard Medical School, and later, a professor of neuroscience and psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, in his 2017 book Why We Sleep defines, rather dramatically, the purpose of sleep as, “a consoling neurochemical bath that mollifies painful memories and a virtual reality space in which the brain melds past and present knowledge, inspiring creativity.” According to Prof. Walker, “REM sleep performed the elegant trick of divorcing the bitter emotional rind from the information-rich fruit.” The deep sleep is to repair the body by restoring cellular homeostasis. Almost all ailments of the body and mind are rooted in insufficient sleep.
It is unwise to use medication for sleep because all medicines are designed to sedate you to fall asleep about 10 to 20 minutes faster, and keep your eyes shut for about 30 minutes more. Alcohol robs you of REM sleep. And the more and late you drink in the evening, the more pronounced is the effect. It impairs your mental health. People who take sleeping pills regularly end up spoiling their waking time. They feel drowsy, have muddled thinking, experience dizziness, or lose their sense of priorities. Their ability to drive is seriously impaired. Besides, most sleeping pills are addictive. Exposure to the blue light emitted by TVs, mobile phones, and computer screens in the late evening, blocks the production of the hormone melatonin in the brain, impairing sleep quality.
According to the Vedic philosophy, the soul lives through the waking, dream, and dreamless states. The Mandukya Upanishad defines the dream state as, स्वप्नस्थानः अन्तः प्रज्ञः (Verse 4), that is, “the wisdom of the inward,” and सुषुप्तस्थानः एकीभूतः प्रज्ञानघनः एव आनन्दमयः (Verse 5), that is, “in dreamless sleep, gathering wisdom and delight from the cosmic oneness.” So, why there is so much ignorance about such a fundamental fact of life? Why do we take sleep so casually? General irritability among children, attention deficit disorder, and a lack of body-mind synchronization are tell-tale signs of poor sleep. Adults pay for their poor sleeping habits through early ageing – hair fall, wrinkles, and high blood pressure – all occur in the absence of proper sleep.
Your waking hours can be likened to when you are on stage, and sleep, to when you prepare for your performance. While it is essential to sleep well, it is very beneficial to understand your dreams, for there, you are not only pointed out your mistakes and what is going on behind your back but also provided guidance and hints to succeed and flourish in life. The Austrian neurologist, Sigmund Freud (1856–1939), first described dreams scientifically, in his 1899 book, The Interpretation of Dreams. He said that dreams inform us about our unconscious desires, thoughts, wish fulfilment, and motivations. It was a great discovery.
But greater were the insights of his junior, the Swiss psychiatrist, Carl Jung (1875 –1961). Jung reversed the concept of the unconscious mind on its head by describing the conscious mind as emerging out of it and not the other way round, that it is the forgotten or repressed memories. He further introduced the idea of the collective unconscious, where all human beings, past and present and future in the making, get connected. And we are connected to this great source of intelligence every night through the medium of dreams.
What a waste life becomes, if this search for oneself is not undertaken, and one dies ignorant of the truth peculiar to oneself! And what a profound joy it is when this discovery is available every night, at no cost, in the privacy of our sleep. The idea is to access your unconscious, which is the best definition of God, a living God inside you.
The popularity of a loving kind God who will protect you against all dangers, compensate for all your shortcomings, and forgive all your follies, is the biggest ignorance of our times. In the Shrimad Bhagavad Gita, God’s Cosmic Force is described and the reality of God as Death, is explained without ambiguity – कालोऽस्मि लोकक्षयकृत्प्रवृद्धो लोकान्समाहर्तुमिह प्रवृत्त, God destroys things and people after they have lived out their time. (XI.32).
God can’t be a wishful projection of our fanciful and selfish thinking. By looking towards God for our good and welfare without assuming responsibility for our omissions and commissions, is a seriously flawed way of living. You don’t pray before an exam without studying for it, break the law and pray for escaping punishment. This error is also at the root of all our psychological problems, wherein all physical ailments start. How can we, by denying death, live a meaningful life?
Daily sleep is a reminder of the ultimate sleep from which one would never wake up, eventually, and every morning bestows upon us the renewal of life. Mahatma Gandhi had famously said that every night when he went to sleep, he died as if to be reborn the next morning, when he woke up. I would add, not just reborn, but born better. The wisdom acquired in dreams can do wonders for your emotional, psychological, and social well-being. Every night, your errors are displayed before you, warnings are given, consequences are foretold, and remedies prescribed.
Know that an emotionally balanced person is satisfied with life, happy, cheerful, and peaceful. Conversely stated, if you are sad, irritated, and disturbed, something is wrong with your life. A person enjoying psychological well-being enjoys optimism, hopefulness, and positive relationships. Social well-being means a belief in the potential of people and society, and is reflected in personal self-worth, usefulness to society, and a sense of community. Where do you stand?
Develop a daily habit of spending some quiet time alone and looking at your life. Sleep well to live well. And learn from your dreams, which are your best guides, supporters, and your connection with the Cosmic Mind, where nothing happens without purpose and no life is redundant. Learn to go to bed early and wake up a little early. Review your dreams every morning for a few minutes before the rush for the day. The truth of your life is inside, and not outside.
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