Just Another Gear in the Desire Machine
In the winter of 1989, I visited Pune for the first time. I worked in the Defence Research & Development Laboratory, Hyderabad, as Project Manager for Airframe and System Integration in the ‘Akash’ missile project. I was sent to interact with engineers at the Research & Development Establishment (Engineers) in Dighi, in the northern suburbs of Pune. I spent a few days there, and one evening, walking through the crowded Budhwar Peth, I bought a book, Self and Others, by R.D. Laing. I had no idea about the book or the author. The title and the three overlapping circles on the cover attracted me, and I bought it. A Scottish psychiatrist, Laing,died that very year, which I would later know.
This book gave me insights into how we are all created by the people around us. As a child grows, he is ‘told’ how to behave. Interestingly, this does not happen smoothly. The child ‘reacts’, and the people around respond differently to these reactions. Some children are cajoled and pampered, and others are scolded and punished. Many others are just ignored. By the time one becomes an adult, a thousand swings have happened from the one extreme – ‘I never asked to be born, leave me in peace’ to ‘I am all that exists, get out of my way’settling mainly on the middle ground of ‘live and let live’.
Later, I learned that German-American psychologist Karen Horney was the first to define the three-fold attitudes of human beings – moving toward, away from, and against others. Within this, three forces are hidden in various human behaviours and relationships, including parents and children,interactions between married couples, at the workplace, and even on the streets. Everyone is ‘attracted to’, ‘averse to’ and ‘hostile towards’ another individual. It is alright until these three responses are spontaneous and change according to the situation. Still, when they become ‘conditioned’ into habits, the behaviours become problematic, which psychologists call neuroticism.
I have seen how TV changed lives in the 1980s. The definition of ‘others’ expanded to include those we saw on TV. People were exposed to ideas, styles and fashions, which was earlier impossible. Then, the Internet came into the picture, and after it became available on mobile phones, social media created a new definition of ‘society’. In the past, contact was one-on-one primarily or one-to-many, and news spread through traditional media like TV and newspapers.Now, anyone worldwide can share their ideas and experiences in real–time and get feedback immediately. Thoughtful people could see how a few corporations made it happen, investing billions of dollars. But why have they provided us with all this?
There are two books, ‘Anti-Oedipus’ and ‘A Thousand Plateaus’. Written by French authors Gilles Deleuze and Félix Guattari and published respectively in 1972 and 1980, both books have a similar subtitle: ‘Capitalism and Schizophrenia’, which provides the answer. The flow of capital and interest and the flow of desire are entwined. Behind every investment of time, interest and capital is an investment of desire, and vice versa. Why do we purchase anything? Out of necessity or out of desire? Is there ‘an invisible hand’ circulating money by making people earn and spend and creating profits for the ‘capitalists’ in every act of their lives?
The three terms – necessity, desire and wants, motivatepeople. Wise people know the difference between them; fools do not. Necessities are the essential requirements for survival and basic well-being. Everybody needs food, water, shelter and clothing. All must have protection from harm, a stable environment and health care. Some level of social interaction and support is necessary for mental health. Universal necessities are generally the same for everyone. Without these, survival and basic functioning are at risk. They are fundamental for life.
Desires are feelings of wanting something not necessary for basic survival but which is strongly yearned for. They are emotions, and they vary significantly among individuals. Desires drive people to set and pursue personal or professional goals and are a powerful motivating force for action and achievement. Wants are whimsical. They are primarily non-essential items or experiences that add comfort, pleasure or pride but are never necessary. People spend a lot on beverages, entertainment, cosmetics, jewellery, fashionable footwear and clothing, and touring for fun. Everyone must know how to distinguish what is crucial for survival from what is motivated by personal preferences and aspirations.This was called ‘Viveka’ by ancient Indians, and Adi Shakaracharya wrote the copious ‘Vivekachudamani’ on this subject.
The American philosophical writer and translator of ‘Anti-Oedipus’ and ‘A Thousand Plateaus’, Mark Seem, writes in the introduction of ‘Anti-Oedipus’:
If one wants to do an analysis of the flows of money and capital that circulate in society, nothing is more useful than Marx and the Marxist theory of money. But if one wishes also to analyze the flows of desire, the fears and the anxieties, the loves and the despairs that traverse the social field as intensive notes from the underground . . . one must look elsewhere. . . the history of mankind is the history of a becoming-reactive.
I was surprised when I dived deep into these two books andfound the ‘ego’ at the centre of this game of capitalism in the modern world. The Internet and broadband have been ‘invested’ to stoke billions of people’s desires so that they ‘buy’ what is unnecessary. In the name of fashion and trends, people must discard what they already have and hoard enough clothes, shoes and watches for the rest of their lives.
We are taught to see only ‘ourselves’ behind every social event. Even God is ‘waiting for us’, ‘listening to our prayers and pleas’ and ‘doing us favours’. This information gives us a picture of reality, but it doesn’t show us reality itself. We are presented with shapes, symbols and signs that hide flows and forces. They keep us from seeing other truths, especially the truth about how power controls us. They are meant to tame, and they make people obedient and docile.
Things seem to be going well so far. Now comes the challenging part. While all this is good for leaders and corporations, it creates internal suffering and a depressive tone of life for countless people. An increasing number of people are neuroticised at home, at school and work. Those who survive the ‘conversion’ become psychotic. These people escape their situations and run away, hiding their failure behind their false heroism. They turn into orphans – no family, atheists, and nomads without territories. German-American painter Richard Lindner drew the ‘Boy with Machine’ picture in 1954. So he saw it coming, so it came.
This is the disease of our times, and humanity suffers from it. To improve, we must live by doing what is necessary rather than becoming ‘desire machines’ and Excel sheet numbers of corporations and in the mailing list of interest groups. By connecting to the machine of the universe – inside your body and outside in the sky – you live better in the flow of life, not by the ‘media’. You can’t change the world, but you can save yourself for good by floating on water like a lotus. The life inside you will show itself in growth, a never-ending process. Life clasps ego-less people in its powerfully productive embrace – and their desire-free work – ‘Nishkam Karma’ – turns them into greats.
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Such a calming blog!!
A desire-free state is synonymous with a no-mind state, an ego-free state, the present, pure awareness. In such a state, happiness that previously played hide and seek becomes accessible as a vast open field without an end. As they say ” In the state of deep sleep, there are no desires or any experiences. It is an ego-free state.”
Sir, a thought provoking perspective and much needed blog post in today’s world.
The explanation of necessity, desire, and wants is enlightening. There is clear distinction between what is needed for us to survive, what we yearn emotionally and what we desire for comfort and pleasure. Understanding the differences between need, desire and want is crucial to lead a balanced life. This helps us makes better choices and avoid unnecessary consumerism. This is so relevant in today’s world where the lines between needs and wants are often blurry.
Thank you, Prof. Tiwari, for sharing this interesting experience of how a chance encounter with a book in Pune back in 1989 sparked such a profound chain of thought. “Self and Others” sounds like a real thought-provoking read, and the ideas about how we are shaped by those around us are very true.
The way you connect those ideas to consumerism and the rise of social media is particularly insightful. It’s easy to get caught up in the constant barrage of desires we are exposed to online. The concept of “Viveka” – discerning between needs and wants – feels especially important in today’s world.
The idea of “Nishkam Karma” – work done without desire for personal gain – is a powerful one. It would be challenging to cultivate that kind of selfless approach in a world driven by desires.
Dear Arunji, thank you for this beautifully profound piece. Your reflections are, as always, so interesting, thought-provoking, offering deep insights that compel us to rethink many aspects of our daily lives. Your exploration of how societal influences shape our behaviors, desires, and perceptions is particularly enlightening. This article will undoubtedly inspire many, including myself, to reassess the balance between necessity, desire, and want, leading to a more thoughtful and intentional way of living.
Dear Sir, What an insightful and thought-provoking post! Your journey from the Defence Research & Development Laboratory in Hyderabad to the bustling streets of Pune and the serendipitous purchase of R.D. Laing’s “Self and Others” serves as a compelling introduction to the profound exploration of human behaviour and societal influences. Your reflections on how our interactions shape our identity and the impact of media and technology on expanding our definition of “others” resonate deeply in today’s interconnected world.
Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. This piece challenges readers to reflect on their lives and societal roles and provides a valuable perspective on finding balance and purpose in a rapidly changing world. Warm Regards.
What a fitting reflection on life Prof Tiwari,
Telling the difference between Desires, Necessity and Wants makes one a whole lot wiser in spending life and the perks that come with it!
Living knowledge acquired from day to day experiences is the most challenging of all callings.
Necessity, desire and want – the differences are subtle and vary from person to person and change depending upon the circumstances. The earlier one realises the latter two are not a must, the better for humankind.
Philosophers from different ages have preached to keep the necessity to a minimum. The road to real happiness is when we lead a life of minimalism.
Thank you Arun ji for this blog on desire machine. You can live better only when you live by what is necessary and donating that surplus for needy people in the world. When you go beyond income to meet the unnecessary desires, you have to borrow or steal and then get into unnecessary trap. This is very good message from this blog for those who depend on credit cards and borrowings for the desires.
Dear Sir, ever since I was a child, I have wondered what liberated, enlightened monks knew that I don’t know. Even now, I have no clue what they knew that escaped me. This blog finally tells me that there is a way out of this world where people are constantly pummelled by desires. Not only monks but many other spiritual practitioners also solved the torment of suffering by turning off their desire machines.
We are all helpless victims of our desires. I think the answer lies in the deeply rooted hope that by pursuing my desires, I will eventually be the Emperor of All My Desires! Then, everything will be finally settled, and I will be free, never again tormented by my desires. Unfortunately, not only I but everyone feels that way. And we end up living in a world of clashing desires, like a road choked with traffic in a jam. Thank you Sir.
Sir,
माया मोहिनि मनुज की, ब्यरथहिँ मन भरमात,
प्रीत भली हरिनाम की, कहि गए आशादास।।
The illusion of man is so captivating that his mind is bewildered in vain, desire God, O slaves of desires
The world we live in is shaped by one thing: our desires. No matter what time of day it is, all we can think about is what we want. Want to get something that makes us happy and stay away from something that bothers, scares, or turns us off. We are really never switched-off desire machines.
Most of us have never been in a state where we weren’t pursuing our desires. Even when we’re bored and drained, we want to get out of that boring state. Everything in our world is affected by the force of desire.
We can’t imagine a world where our desires don’t control how we feel, what we think, what we say, and how we act. Not possible! What else is there besides this seemingly endless flow of desires one after the other? It looks like there is nothing else there.
Very very thought provoking blog, Respected Sir
Doing what is necessary has never been harder in a space where capitalism takes center stage. In the process, the line that demarcates necessity, desire and want becomes thinner. The push to conform is eating us and remaining authentic is being frowned upon. If only we had a preview of how much value we lost by ignoring the life inside us……
Dear Prof, Thank you for sharing this writing on human drivers. Isn’t it true that when a man/woman loses his/her moral and/or integrity compass, these aimless roads to success lead to depression and sadness?
I have authored a book on “The Integrity Compass” to contribute to this healthy debate. In the digital generation, issues of integrity and honesty need to take centre stage. These are enduring and fulfilling values.